This week at nursery drop-off, arms full of bags and baby, cajoling my three year old to keep pace I made a joke about our plan to one day have a third child.
The person I said it to replied …suggesting we wait until Matilda is different.
(She used the term ‘less fickle’ though think this was an emergency end to an un-thought-through sentence).
I told her (and Matilda, who was in earshot) that we wouldn’t have her any other way - but it made me consider how important this message really is.
My beautiful girl is smart, fiery and every red-headed stereotype you can imagine. She does her own thing, she questions everything and answers back. Boundary pushing and testing limits is her pastime. She is empathetic and seeks out the quieter, less confident children and includes them in play. Her keen sense of justice and what is fair makes her quick to speak up against what she thinks is wrong. She is imaginative, strong-willed and huge-hearted.
At three years old, she is everything I could want her to be, and all the things that will make her a force to be reckoned with as she grows into a woman.
So, as full on as it can be parenting such a tiny whirlwind, I hope she never changes.
In life, some people might not appreciate your full ‘you-ness’; asking you to be a little different, a little less vocal, make things a bit easier for them, to tone down your full, dazzling and magnificent self. Don’t listen to those people.
Continue to be wonderfully you, you’re amazing, awesome and perfectly imperfect just the way you are.